received this from an email, so it's not written by me.. just to share with everyone. it's written in traditional chinese. heex. i'm abit lazy to rewrite it in simplified chinese. gomen gomen. but i added an english version. haha. (*^-^*)
很清楚的知道她不合適自己，可是更確定的是他不會主動說分手。他只是耗著等著，直到有一天女生自己受不了忽冷忽熱、若即若離的態度，或是等到年華老去不得不下決定時，自己選擇離開。妳的主動離開，我沒有負心，反而是尊重與成全妳的決定。
even if he knows clearly that she's not suitable for him, he also knows that he wont be the one initiating the breakup. he's just waiting for a day when she can no longer take the hot and cold attitudes from him and choose to leave him. if she left him, it's not his fault, and he will respect her decision.
半年後發現，他居然可以跟一個只認識三個月的女生步入禮堂，令她晴天霹靂，才明白他不是不想結婚，不是真的不婚主義者，說穿了只是他不想跟妳結婚。八年的愛情長跑比不上三個月的感情。
half a year later, he actually married a girl whom he barely knew for 3 months. it was a huge impact on her. then she came to realise that not that he dont want to be married, he didn't want to marry her. 8 years of love cant even match up to 3 months of infactuation.
這位故事中的男生是我的朋友，現在也已經結婚半年。當他聽到劉若英的「後來」，居然會無法克制的流眼淚，想起的是他交往八年的前任女友。為什麼會難過，因為妻子身上有著前任女友的影子，他才明白其實他喜歡的就是這種類型的女孩。
in this story, the guy is my friend and he's been married for half a year. but whenever he hears the song "hou lai" by liu ruo ying, he cant help but started tearing as he began to remember all the times he had with his ex-girlfriend. why was he sad? it's because he can sees her shadow on his wife. only then did he realised the one he really love is this type of girl.
可是人往往很矛盾，喜歡她的倔強與有性格，卻受不了她的嬌縱。喜歡她的落落大方，卻受不了她的朋友一堆；你愛她的小家碧玉，就不要怪她不夠大方；你愛她的活潑大方，就不要批評她像花蝴蝶一樣。戀愛談的愈長，結婚的可能性就愈低，所以有時候戀愛的長度與結婚的可能性成反比。
but humans are always contradicting. he loves her stubborn-ness and character, but couldnt take her whining. he loves her being outgoing, but couldnt accept the fact that she has alot of friends. he loves her being a humble girl, but he blames her for not being generous. he loves her sociability, but he criticise her as a flirt. the longer in a relationship, the possibility of getting married is lower.
喜新厭舊是人性，日子久了，會結婚不是為了愛情，而是責任感的驅使。婚後的他才慢慢的發現，當時的那一段感情其實不是不愛，是時間太久了太長了，把愛情給磨掉了，再遇到另一個女孩點燃了愛情的火苗，星星之火足以遼源，把枯竭已久的愛情給予生命，所以倉促的決定結婚。等到真的結婚後，愛情降了溫，才慢慢的發現其實妻子的身上有著許多前任女友的影子，他比較愛的人其實還是前任女友，可是他娶的卻不是她。這樣的情節不知道是不是也在別處同樣上演著？
liking new stuffs and detesting old stuffs is human nature. once it's long enough, marriage isnt out of love anymore, it's out of responsibility. after he's married, he realised that it wasnt love. it was time that made the love dried up, so when he met another girl, the flame of love was rekindled. it relighted the emptiness in love for him, thus marrying hurrily. after marriage, when the temperature went down, only then did he realised there's alot of her shadows on his wife. he actually love her more than his wife, but the one he married wasnt her. wonder if this kind of situation is happening somewhere too..
學生時代的愛情很單純，出社會以後總想等工作穩定以後再結婚，工作穩定以後又想等有一點積蓄買車子、買房子以後再結婚，等著等著，等到愛情被時光給消磨，等到第三者介入點燃了對方心中激情的火苗，乾柴烈火不可收拾以後，曾經在年少一起織夢的理想全都抵擋不了新鮮感的激情，所以琵琶別抱，到最後步入禮堂的都不是在一起同甘共苦、共同經歷過寒、暑假，等當兵的人。
the love during schooldays are pure. but once one stepped into the society, after a job is stable, it would be marriage. but after the career is stable, want to save money for buying car and house, before getting married. waiting and waiting, love is tested by time and when a third party came into the picture, it rekindled the flame of love for one party. the dreams that were weaved together when they were young, couldnt resist temptation from someone new. in the end, the one who walked the red carpet with him, wasnt someone who went through thick and thin with him.
所以奉勸各位女孩子，如果對方真的是你想結婚的對象，不要想著有房子有車子有金子，有了一切再結婚。現實是，等他有了一切，他的身價暴漲是有價值的單身貴族，他必需要面臨的是更多的誘惑，妳長久以來的等待與年輕時許下的山盟海誓都難以抵擋誘惑排山倒海的來。就像我現在若不嫁他，非得等到他有車子有房子還有存款時再結婚，那時新娘有極高的可能不是我。因為要等到什麼都有還要幾年？有能力的男人就像酒愈久愈香醇，女人則像麵包一樣有賞味期限，青春是女人的天敵。如果我是他，等到我三十五歲，什麼都有是個有上千萬身價的黃金單身漢，我並不需要一個很有能力而年過三十的女人來幫襯我，我寧可選個如花似玉，年輕貌美的女生，也許沒有什麼工作能力，至少發揮了賞心悅目的功能，一個真正有能力的男人，不會在乎一個女人是否能在他的財富上加乘。遇上對的人，莫等待莫蹉跎，也許沒有房子沒有車子，只要他認真上進，他就是張有潛力的積優股，早點進場獲利更高。
a piece of advice to all ladies, if the other party is someone you really wanna marry, do not wait till he owns a car, house and is rich. once he has everything, his value would increase and he has to resist all sorts of temptations. you will be wasting the youth you had spent waiting for him, the promises, when he chooses someone else. a capable man is like wine, the older the better. but ladies are like bread, we have expiry dates. youth is our limiting factor. if i'm him, and i'm 35, and i have everything (millions of wealth) and single, i dont need a capable woman who is financially independent. i would rather choose a young and pretty girl without any abilities. so when you have met the right one, do not wait till he has a house, a car. if he's diligent, eventually one day his potential will shine and be successful.
也提醒各位男士，如果對方真的是你想好好疼愛的女人，別讓她等太久，有她一起陪你奮鬥應該是很美好的一件事除非你心中有其他的想法，否則別讓愛情等太久，把真愛都磨掉了！雖然聽起來很殘忍,但身邊的家人朋友都有類似的例子。
also a piece of advice for the gentlemen, if the other party is someone you really love, dont let her wait too long. having them by your side is the best thing that can ever happen. unless you are thinking otherwise, do not let love wait too long, as true love may also wrinkled through time. even though it may sound very cruel, but everyone around me has such examples.
真愛，就不要等，除非是不想結婚......
if it's true love, do not wait, unless you dont wish to marry...